When I was a new mom, it seemed like everyone had advice about parenting or babies or family life. Even though it stressed me out, I listened and I gave everyone the benefit of the doubt because I knew they only wanted to help me and see me thrive as a mother.
A visit to the pediatrician with my oldest led to a discussion about sleep habits and he stopped me in my tracks and said the most important thing any doctor has ever told me.
“Whatever works for you is the best way to do it.”
What? No books, no magazine articles, no old wives tales passed down through generations? Absolutely not. Hearing those words changed how I parent my three, and the be honest, has helped my keep my sanity over the years.
Sixteen years later, though, when one of my millenial friends had a baby, I felt the need to issue some advice of my own. Thank goodness, I caught myself before any words escaped my mouth. Instead of telling her what she needed, what the baby needed, and what needed to happen next, I started a conversation with a group of friends about said parenting advice – and the “tips” that we all hate.
Can you relate to this?
Get them on a schedule. We are on a schedule. No schedule is fool-proof, and sometimes it’s necessary for the schedule to change. When kids go to school, the whole idea of scheduling changes based, pretty much, on the school schedule. When I was married and my husband worked a weird shift, there were some days that the kids were awake at 3 am so they could spend a few moments with their father. – T.H.